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It can feel like ~everybody~ uses dating apps. But, that's not true, as I'm sure you and I both know people (perhaps yourself!) who don't. Though being on dating apps may seem like the norm, that's not the case with everybody — people meet partners in real life all the time. For instance,I did Appless April, Bustle's challenge to take delete your dating apps for a month and ended up loving it. After all, meeting future dates in person, without the help of an app, is natural and faster — you omit all the back-and-forth, the matches who just want to be pen-pals, the matches who ghost..

'The biggest advantage to meeting potential dates in real life is getting to experience their vibe right away, which is something no online dating platform can deliver,' Thomas Edwards, founder of The Professional Wingman, tells Bustle. 'This increases your odds of making good choices on who to go on a date with. There's no better way to gauge attraction and chemistry than to be physically present with someone.'

I definitely hear that! As efficient as some dating apps are — I mean, you can message someone one minute and literally be out on a date with them the next! — going to a friend's birthday party and hitting it off with somebody IRL is even more so. Not to mention that dating apps are often a dating Band-Aid or crutch for people, I think. An example? Recently at a restaurant, I started talking to two guys at the table next to me (one was reading a book and had a Powell's City of Books bookmark — I love that indie bookstore in Portland!). Somehow, dating apps came up and they said they had deleted theirs, since having apps made them approach women less in person, 'because we can just go home and swipe later.' So, they said their luck was much better IRL when they didn't have the apps to rely on as a back-up. Great point.

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All the above said, here's how 18 Millennials continually find dates IRL. You may be able to relate, or you may get ideas on new places to meet people.

'Mostly, not being on a dating app has to do with privacy and being happy every day with life as it is. Any moment I haven't met the 'man of my dreams' is a moment to take care of myself, friends, and family, and to do something to improve my own life. It has never felt right to me to cast a wide net and look to bring a person into my life. So rather than looking for someone to date, I practice being happy every day on my own, and it helps me see the incredible people who are already in my network of friends, neighborhood, and community. It helps me love the work I do, build a better home, deepen friendships, and be more creative. I won't put that vital energy into scanning through profiles of people I don't have any contact with. I meet incredible people through friends, while hearing live music, at coffee shops, etc. If you're willing to make eye contact and smile at people, it's sort of like swiping through photos in real life. You instinctively know who you want to talk to, who you want as a friend, and who you are attracted to.'
'I'm in NYC and I'm no longer on dating apps for the simple reason that I don't get any dates out of them. I assume it's because I photograph really poorly or dropped out of college to become an entrepreneur, but I NEVER get matches and never get dates out of it. In my most recent stint on and Bumble earlier this year, I swiped right on maybe 1,500 or so women over the course of weeks without a single match. It's terrible for my self-esteem. I'd generally get one response out of 75 or so messages sent out on OKC. So I stopped.
Meeting women in person is extremely easy. They're 50 percent of the population, after all. I meet them all over the place — at bars, parties, dating events like Social Concierge, etc. It's really as easy as introducing yourself and starting a conversation. If you go into it with the goal of having a fun conversation, there's no pressure. If we're both enjoying the conversation and feeling a connection, I'll ask for her number. I find it's really hard not to have a fun conversation if they're interested in chatting. For what it's worth, I start conversations with everyone, everywhere. Everyone has an interesting story to tell!'
'I'm not on dating apps because I write publicly about vulnerable issues like eating disorders, PCOS, and recovery at I Haven't Shaved In Six Weeks, and I would prefer to meet people organically to explain that. I've tried dating apps before without linking my social media or mentioning my blog, but, the truth is, people know how to find you. Plus, I think it's human nature to 'talk' (text) to someone and want to immediately have more info at your fingertips. I don't enjoy feeling as though I need to put my writing — or my story — on defense before meeting someone. Most men were understanding, but it always left me feeling like we were at a disadvantage because my life story is on the Internet and they are not. I didn't feel it gave me the best opportunity to date.
Instead, I meet people loads of ways. I've gone on dates through volunteering for a nonprofit. I've gone on dates through friends of friends. My ex — I met at a friend's wedding. I attend a book club and writing class, and have met people that way. I don't attend Meetups or dating 'mingles.' I just live my life and people come along on planes or trains. In more interesting cases, I've gone on dates a couple times with men who have written to me off my contact page on my blog to thank me for giving them insight into their mother's/sister's/brother's/son's/whomever's eating disorder or addiction recovery — kinda like a You've Got Mail situation. I've hiked with a man and we had emailed back and forth for months prior. There's interesting ways to meet people, I'm confident of that.'
'I tried apps but got burnt out (who doesn't?!). Now, I go to events I'm truly interested in, like comedy shows and book signings, and if I meet someone there, great. If not? At least I was out doing something I like to do! Also, I feel apps are too forced. When you meet someone at one of the above events, for instance, it's natural, and you don't have to do all the back-and-forth that apps require — not to mention, so many people flake or stop messaging anyway!'
'Friends of friends are my go-to. If I don't meet women at a social event I'll naturally attend, like a birthday party, sometimes I'll just flat-out ask male and female friends if they have anyone to introduce me to. You don't know if you don't ask!'

If you are running around from meetings to lunch to conference calls to more meetings, the last thing you have time to squeeze into your busy schedule is swiping through a dating app, much less going on actual dates. But if you are hell-bent on finding someone special, what are the best dating apps for young professionals? Though Tinder, OkCupid, Hitch, Hinge, Bumble and the like are usually my go-to recommendations for dating apps, they hold far too large a cross-section of the general public for the professional subset. If you're working 80-hour weeks and want someone who maintains a similarly breakneck pace, you have to steer clear of the usual suspects, dating app–wise, and branch out to alternate ground.

BeLinked is an obvious choice, as it uses your LinkedIn account the way Tinder uses your Facebook profile, but this is not your only option. I found a lot of lesser-known possibilities for professionals, such as Raya, Dapper, and The Dating Lounge, and though they all vary in theme and content, they have one thing in common: A high yield of professionals who log into the apps on the regs. Here are the top 10 dating apps for professionals.

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1. BeLinked

As the name might tell you, BeLinked dating app uses not your Facebook profile but your LinkedIn account to log in, which is a good signifier of how the app functions in general. BeLinked is for professionals, so if you're chillin' on your mom's couch and plan on staying there for a long time, more power to you, but this app may not be the best fit. If you're a driven, ambitious and motivated career gal, this is the dating app for you.

2. The League

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The League dating app is highly selective, and profiles pull in your Linkedin and Facebook info. There is a waiting list to get on the app, but if you have a friend who's on there — they can give you a VIP ticket which lets you cut the line. But there's nothing stopping you from applying if you so desire, especially if you're looking for other career-minded folks.

3. Dapper

If you're working all the time, you probably don't have an extra second to schedule dates. Dapper handles this for you; if you have a match, the app will suggest a time and place for an 'awesome first date.' When you're booked bumper-to-bumper with meetings all day, the last thing you have mental energy for is dreaming up the perfect first date, so this app will be super helpful to over scheduled professionals.

4. The Dating Lounge

As with Hitch, where you get to play matchmaker, and Hinge, where you date friends of Facebook friends, The Dating Lounge connects people that are friends of friends on Facebook, and mutual pals can play cupid and introduce friends via the app. It's also an invite-only app, which promises to weed out scammers and randos, and present you with a more curated selection of dates. Perfect for those of us profesh enough to need date curation.

5. Suitr

Dating app Suitr is specifically for professionals, so it wins a stamp of approval from white-collars right there. Also, their 'team of dating experts' review everyone who signs up, and if you're not actually a professional, you're weeded out. A word of advice: Critics of the app complain that you can never delete your profile, so be sure you really want to, uh, suit up before you join.

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6. Whim

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Once again, this app caters to those who have no extra time — just pop in the dates and times you're free in any given week, and this app will schedule some dates for you. Whim is not totally willy-nilly — you browse people's profiles and flag the ones you're interested in meeting; if they flag you back, the app does the scheduling for you.

7. Raya

Like The League, Raya dating app is application-based. If you're accepted, the app — 'for people in creative industries' — will link you with other special chosen ones. The membership-only dating app design is like Soho House for the online world of love-searching (or date-searching, whatever), and has a monthly fee, so this generally appeals mostly to those who are creative professionals — aka celebrities.

8. Teased

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Dating app Teased is less about profile photos and more about experiential data — what is this potential date really like? What do they like to do, and where do they like to go? The app is populated with your Instagram photos, and places deep emphasis on getting to know someone inside and out, as opposed to the Tinder hot-or-not sensibility. Professionals who have lived exciting lives would probably do well here.

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9. Match

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Of course, I have to include Match's dating app, which is the premier app for finding an actual relationship. If you've got it all — high-level career, beautiful home, great friends, amazing family — but you want to stop checking the 'single' box on forms, Match is probably your best bet for finding something serious.

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